The most important thing about motherhood journey
Lately I’ve seen this new trend on Instagram coming up again and again and I love it so much. (it’s a big thing because usually I hate trends :D)
It’s about showing you a short video with a baby or a mom and her baby and a short description: stating a crucial difference, their experience in their motherhood journey vs others.
Like:
When a child sleeps through the night you have a totally different motherhood experience, than when yours doesn’t
When you have grandparents nearby, you have a totally different motherhood journey
When you have a supportive partner you have a different motherhood journey than when yours isn’t
When you are supported in your choices vs you’re constantly criticized you have different motherhood journey
When your baby is easygoing vs your baby is sensitive you have a totally different motherhood journey
And I LOVE THIS, because it exactly talks about the most important thing about the motherhood journey. That your motherhood journey is UNIQUE.
You shouldn’t compare your motherhood journey to others’ because you are unique, your circumstances, your personality, your baby your dreams, you support network…. they all matter and can be sooo different.
Think about the best thing about the newborn phase you had - and now imagine the opposite of it. (:P)
I loved for example that my firstborn was waking up every 3 hours like a clock:D and so I could adjust to this new “rhythm”. (very poor but at least a rhythm)
And then it was awful when my son was waking up every hour and couldn’t rest at all at night. He was on the other hand very good at breastfeeding, was latching immediately and didn’t have that struggle with the breastfeeding with him… etc
We didn’t have family nearby and that definitely made my journey more difficult.
These are just tiny examples, but I want you to see your whole motherhood journey as YOURS.
It matters who you are
It matters what you want, what your dreams are
It matters what’s your baby like
It matters how much support you have
It matters whether you live abroad
It matters whether you have financial pressure
It matters what kind of mom support groups/playgroups you have nearby…
Don’t compare yourself to other mothers because we all have different circumstances. What matters is that You are CREATING your motherhood journey proactively based on what’s best for You.
Can you give yourself the grace to NOT compare yourself and focus on your own path?
Each mother’s experience can be completely unique — even though they’re all doing the same job.
🏡 Environment & Living Situation
Your motherhood looks different when you’re raising kids in a tiny apartment in the city vs. a spacious home in the countryside
When you have a garden and fresh air vs. a balcony and traffic noise
When your child’s playground is a park downstairs vs. a field you have to drive to
When you’re raising kids in a different country from your own parents, missing the familiar support and traditions
When you’re far from family vs. when you have grandparents next door
🕰️ Daily Life & Support
Your journey looks different when you have a partner who shares the load vs. doing most things on your own
When you can afford childcare or help vs. when every nap is your only “break”
When you’re working full-time, part-time, or staying home
When you have a village of friends and family vs. when you’re building one from scratch
When your partner travels for work or works long hours vs. being present daily
😴 Sleep & Routines
When your baby sleeps through the night vs. still wakes up every two hours
When you bedshare out of choice vs. out of survival
When naps happen like clockwork vs. only in the stroller or car seat
When you wake up before the kids to find quiet vs. when the kids wake you every day
💸 Finances & Resources
When maternity leave is paid and supported vs. when you go back to work after a few weeks
When you can order groceries or get help vs. when every errand is an adventure with a baby in tow
When you have access to therapy, lactation consultants, or postpartum care vs. when you’re Googling everything at 2 a.m.
🌍 Cultural & Social Factors
When your culture celebrates new mothers with care and rest vs. when it expects you to bounce back immediately
When you’re surrounded by other moms in the same phase vs. feeling like the only one still figuring it out
When your community is open about mental health and parenting struggles vs. when you feel you must hide your exhaustion
💕 Children & Temperament
When your baby is easygoing vs. when you have a high-needs or sensitive child
When your toddler loves independence vs. when they cling to you all day
When you have twins or multiples
When your child’s sleep, feeding, or development requires extra care or therapies
🧭 Personal Circumstances
When you’re mothering after loss or infertility
When you’re parenting with a chronic illness or disability
When you’re healing childhood wounds while raising your own child
When you’re far from the life you pictured, but still showing up with love
What matters is that YOU are doing your best and you know that’s good enough.
Your motherhood experience can be radically improved when you drop the expectations, the constant measuring/comparison and you start CREATING it intentionally.
Don’t use others’ examples to beat yourself up or to feel like you fall short. Stay in your lane and create your own experience based on what YOU want, knowing your own circumtances.
What do you want your motherhood journey to look like, to FEEL?
What do you want to change?
What can you do NOW to get one step closer to that?
Your motherhood journey is unique. That’s why there is no such this as THE good mom. But you ARE a good enough mom, doing your best. Have you listened to my podcast’s 5th episode?;) Check out my Good Enough Mom Podcast HERE.
Xx