5 ways to change the negative noise

Jul 1

Are you aware of what you’re telling yourself?
Do you notice all the mean things you say to yourself?
Do you often feel down but don’t even know why…?

It’s your negative SELF-TALK, the constant noise in your head.

Our self-talk is basically our automatic thoughts created by our brain based on experience, socialization and primal wiring.

You can’t do much about what your brain offers you, but you can do a LOT with the given thoughts:

not giving your focus to them
let them pass
not believe them
change them

First step to change this negative noise in your head is to NOTICE them. What are you telling yourself… what’s that constant whisper.

Your self-talk is the engine behind every feeling you have—and those feelings are what drive every single action you take (or don't take).

If your inner voice is constantly whispering

that you're not enough
that you're failing
that you're falling behind

how could you possibly show up empowered, energized, or confident?

You can’t.

That voice becomes your truth, and your truth shapes your results. This is why it’s non-negotiable to start noticing how you speak to yourself. That quiet, sneaky inner dialogue is either building your life or breaking it down.

The good news? You can change it. You have the power to choose thoughts that fuel courage, clarity, and self-respect—and when you do, your whole life begins to shift. Start listening, because what you say to yourself becomes who you are.

Let me give you 5 specific tools how you can actually CHANGE your self-talk after you noticed what’s going on in your head.

🔥 1. Talk to Yourself Like You’d Talk to Your Child

Would you ever tell your child …they’re not enough? Never. So stop doing it to yourself. Speak with compassion, not criticism. Be your own encourager, not your own bully.

🔥 2. Rewrite the Script

When a negative thought pops up, flip it.
Instead of: “I’m messing everything up.”
Say: “I’m doing the best I can with what I have—and that’s good enough.”
You don’t need to lie to yourself—just tell a tiny bit more positive thought that you can actually believe

🔥 3. Stop Looking for Evidence That You Suck

Your brain is wired to prove your thoughts right. Feed it new ones. Start collecting proof that you are strong, that you are showing up, that you are worthy. Keep a “win list” every day—even if it’s just: “Kept the baby alive and drank hot coffee.” That counts.

🔥 4. Surround Yourself With Voices That Lift You

What you hear on repeat, you start to believe. Cut out the judgmental noise (online or in real life) and surround yourself with people, coaches, or content that fuel your fire, not your self-doubt. (you’re following me HERE on instagram right?😄)

🔥 5. Take away that noise’s power - rewire your brain

When you keep hearing the same whispers it becomes your inner voice (your brain has a picture and a well widened neuropathway for it) all you need to do to change it is to mess with that engrained path-> my favorite way is to repeat the same sentence but now in a different voice - in Minnie Mouse’s voice or any of your fav cartoon character or from your fav series… (we can play also effectively with the visuals and where that picture is in your brain)

Changing your self-talk isn’t fluffy mindset work—it’s life-changing warfare against the crap that’s been holding you back. You are not broken. You are becoming. And it starts with the words you say to you.

If you want help with changing your self-talk, I can help. I have several amazing unconscious tools to rewire your brain and change that shitty noise to a more empowering one. Let’s chat. Book your free consult HERE.

I also have new podcast episodes on this very topic. If you would love to have me in your ears and start deconditioning your brain that way, listen in here to the Good Enough Podcast.

Start noticing your own self-talk TODAY.

Eszter B Szabo